No I think you miss what I am saying. There are adopted families that are wonderful. I am talking more about families that are divorced and have multiple grandparents and there is confusion. There was in my family. I know that it is a blessing for a child to be adopted into a family who loves him. I more or less talking of families fighting who is getting him on the holidays and the weekends. I'm sorry I offended. This story was not for a single family unit.